The Ultimate Guide to Cuffing Season: Desi Edition
Okay so it definitely dropped over 10 degrees in the past weeks, so it’s safe to say that cuffing season is in full swing. Not only is it going to be easier for you to settle in with one person for the winter who makes you feel as cozy as a warm pumpkin spice latte, it’s also just going to be a whole lot safer for the world this year thanks to good ole’ coronavirus. Read on for the ultimate guide to surviving cuffing season by picking the right match.
1. Get ahead of the game – get active on those dating apps!
The colder it gets, the lazier everyone gets. Start early to make sure you end up with the right winter boo. If you put it off too long, chances are it’ll be too cold & dark to go on IRL dates, especially in the middle of this pandemic. But also, don’t let that stop you – virtual FaceTime dates are actually a thing too.
2. Be honest about what you’re looking for.
Evaluate your current emotional state and be honest with yourself about what you’re looking for, and what you need right now. The temporary pressure of cuffing season shouldn’t force you into a temporary fling if what you’re really looking for is a long-term commitment. We know it’s tempting, but we promise your dil will thank you for it.
3. Make a good cup of chai essential selection criteria.
Do they like chai? Because you can’t possibly be expected to get through a whole winter with someone if they don’t like chai. Bonus points if they can also MAKE you a garam cup of chai. If chai isn’t your dealbreaker, decide what is, and make sure you’re upfront about it in your bio so you’re not wasting your time matching with people who aren’t on the same page.
4. Compare your taste in movies early.
We can’t imagine anything worse than compromising on your Netflix watchlist ALL winter. If you’re a rewatch KKHH kind of girl and he’s a Sacred Games kind of guy (though of course you can be both), it’s going to be a long winter.
5. Talk about your love languages.
Sure, you might say love languages aren’t critical for a temporary cuffing season match, but they can be critical to surviving the winter. A big draw of cuffing season is having someone around for company while it’s bleak outside, particularly for all the cuddles. But if they’re not even a cuddler, you need to know that going into it.
6. Break old patterns.
That means no exes! In some ways, exes feel like the perfect choice for a cuffing partner. You’re already comfortable with each other so you can skip the awkward phase. It’s also easier to lie to yourself that you’re in control of the situation since you know it’s temporary going into it. But all you’re doing is setting yourself up for getting hurt again. Aim for a mess-free winter!
7. Have a contingency plan
Cuffing season is intended to be temporary, but it’d be naive to assume that catching feelings is outside the realm of possibility. Talk about your boundaries and how you’d approach this scenario if it came about before you dive in. Open communication is key.
